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Whether the narcissist in your life is a boss, coworker, relative, or romantic partner, the exercises and advice in Unmasking Narcissism will help you set healthy boundaries and make sense of this complex and often painful issue. In this groundbreaking guide from clinical psychologist Mark Ettensohn, PsyD., you will gain insight into narcissistic behaviors, symptoms, and rWhether the narcissist in your life is a boss, coworker, relative, or romantic partner, the exercises and advice in Unmasking Narcissism will help you set healthy boundaries and make sense of this complex and often painful issue. In this groundbreaking guide from clinical psychologist Mark Ettensohn, PsyD., you will gain insight into narcissistic behaviors, symptoms, and relationship dynamics. Dr. Ettensohn provides exercises designed to help you clarify your own values and goals for the relationship, whether that means immediate separation or long-term relationship management. Anyone whose life has been touched by narcissism will find this book helpful - whether you are coming to terms with a loved one's diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality disorder (NPD), or working to move forward after leaving a narcissistic relationship.Unmasking Narcissism provides strategies and coping styles that will guide you toward a deeper understanding of both the narcissist and yourself, with:Easy-to-read sections aligned with the DSM-5 criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Explanations of both grandiose (overt) and vulnerable (covert) narcissism. Healing tools and techniques, including how to defuse arguments instead of fuel them, mindfulness meditation, and exploring vulnerability. Real-world stories of people coping with narcissists. Throughout, Unmasking Narcissism offers a fully realized, yet compassionate portrait of narcissism that will help you on your path to healing without compromising your own mental health and wellness....

Title : Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life
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Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life Reviews

  • Alexander Tomislav
    2019-02-17 00:07

    Written by a psychologist, the book is a very well written guide on handling narcissists. It's a helpful resource not only for understanding the inner life of narcissistic persons, but also ways to cope with them in a healthy, accepting way. It's a worthy read for anyone who suspects their close ones might be narcissistic.

  • Gisela Hausmann
    2019-02-12 23:45

    This is a fascinating book. I picked it up last year when news reports began focusing on then-candidate Donald Trump's narcissist behavior. Somehow, in my mind I thought that this book featured some kind of scientific analysis about topics like "Narcissistic politicians."Indeed, "Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life" focuses on "understanding and dealing with narcissists, which (I guess) everybody should learn because we can't always walk away... Maybe the narcissist in our life is our partner or ex-partner, parent, boss or coworker?This was unexpected. Author Mark Ettensohn presented empathy for narcissists; the book also explains how people become narcissists, for instance because they get conditioned by their parents.Reading the book I realized that I know very few people who don't have at least narcissists' traits, myself included.Narcissists can be vain about talents, skills, income, or anything else that can confer special status.Isn't this what almost everybody does on Facebook? And, more specifically: aren't social media platforms furthering all of our narcissistic tendencies? I read that research suggests Facebook can heighten feelings of depression, loneliness and jealousy.Which should not be a surprise because pretty much everybody presents themselves as surpassing these or those standards or expectations.Unfortunately, "Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life" does not address social media postings, my guess is that research is only happening as I write this.Highly recommended, 4 stars,Gisela Hausmann, email evangelist & author

  • Chris Watson
    2019-02-09 05:07

    This was a great book in explaining behaviors and actually gaining a sense of empathy toward people who have narcissistic traits. It was also instrumental in giving the tools needed for different cases and relationships which I've been able to start using.The only reason that I gave the book four stars was because while reading, you can't help but self-reflect on if these traits apply to yourself. As such, I would've like to see more advice for one's self to help themselves.

  • Autumn Curry
    2019-01-23 03:37

    I felt the previous book on narcissism was lacking because it only covered very generals about the disorder, but I wanted to learn more about how to deal with narcissistic people (which is often really difficult since their behaviors aren't predictable).  This book was really a great second book to read after How to Handle  Narcissist by Theresa Jackson because I felt like it was more of a continuation on the topic, expounded on previously read topics, but really gave me something to work with.  What I loved most about this book is that it really just had wonderful strategies that I feel would be helpful just to deal with difficult people, period.  The book does an excellent job discussing trigger topics and how to prepare yourself when they are pushed as well as exercises to help you ground yourself.  I made over 20+ notes in my phone on this book along about things for me to remember.  My favorite quote: "just as locking the front door protects the people inside, setting boundaries is all about protecting what is important to you."

  • Gwyn Haller
    2019-02-15 01:39

    Excellent structured ResourceI gave this book five stars because of it's usefulness in research and layered, again useful learning. I was interested in this personality as a player in a story. This is not a new concept if the character is stereotyped. What about echo? "What if?" idea questions abound. I don't think the author intended this book as a writer's reference. It seems to be the author's intent to create understanding for those seeking a well written volume of understanding the "types" (italics mine) of narcissistic personality and helping the reader become healthy, recover, find a middle ground.

  • Ádám Büte
    2019-02-06 03:48

    Clinical, soulless guide to ease you into codependency.

  • Slowthinker
    2019-02-18 01:02

    This is not a book to learn how to change a narcissist. The best advice for a person in a relationship with a narcissist is to leave. For someone unable or unwilling to leave, this book offers an understanding of narcissists. Understanding is not the same as justifying the behavior.A common misconception is that narcissists love only themselves, but they suffer from a lack of an authentic self. They either did not develop a healthy sense of self-esteem at a critical age. They are often high achievers who possess a need to prove themselves to gain love and to compensate for the lack of it in their childhood.People are attracted to narcissists because they can be very good at exploiting other people’s need to feel important and special. For the most part, grandiose narcissists make heavy use of psychological defenses denial and projection. Denial is when a person refuses to include important pieces of information their assessment of a given situation. Instead of facing an uncomfortable reality, a person shuts her eyes and persists in believing a more comfortable reality. Grandiose narcissists secretly are terrified that they simply aren’t good enough. They create a fantasy of perfection rather than acknowledge the fear.As opposed to denial, projection involves unconsciously placing feeling of insecurity and worthlessness on others, simultaneously allowing a narcissist to get rid of unwanted feelings and imagine that they are better than the worthless ones.Another type of narcissist is the vulnerable one. They still have grandiose traits, but they are hidden. Instead of feeling they are better than everyone else, vulnerable narcissists feel that they *should* be better than everyone else and are simply failing to live up to expectations. They are notorious perfectionists. Personal exceptionalism is the belief that you are special in a way that set you above other people, the trait that drives cliques in high school.While I picked up this book in hopes of finding ways to deal with difficult people, I am finding an abundance of information, ideas and advice that lead to insight into areas that I would like to change. After describing narcissists and their behaviors, the book gives examples of how people interact with what each person is thinking in situations where conflicts arise. A discussion of general narcissism follows with emphasis on the characteristics that were involved in the example situation. Solutions to how the person affected by the narcissistic behavior might act to have her own needs/hurts/discomfort addressed without putting the narcissist on the defense.I had a hard time putting this book down. I could go on and on describing the situations addressed in the book. I took notes, because I wanted to remember what was written. There would be a test. The test would be to get through situations with my narcissist without provoking the situation or capitulating.The book describes narcissistic behavior and how hurtful it can be to the people in their lives and then describes what happened in the narcissist’s life that made him act and react the way he does.It never condones the behavior.When I apply the description to narcissists in my life, it softens my heart and the way I think of the narcissist as a friend or relative or employer, and by doing so, I can choose to act in a way that does not make the situation worse. I can’t change what has already happened, but I change what happens in the future by acting in a way that either fuels or defuses. A third option would be to leave. It might be the right answer is to get as far away as possible.The book offers examples of how using the understanding gained, one can choose to not fuel the flames. There’s no pretense that you can expect to fix the narcissist. But you can take the wind out of his sails and perhaps he does change, but only because he no longer has an advantage point. The playing ground is more level.I win because I no longer hold the animosity toward the person. My stress is lowered. I can’t be bullied because I don’t push back or fight. I also don't just roll over. Narcissists can evoke such strong emotions. This offers some survival tactics.

  • Carole Koch
    2019-01-29 02:03

    Interesting. There is no cure for narcissism, only coping mechanisms for afflicted and their victims. Page 98 to 100 causes. Apparently they do not know that they lie--reality is hidden from them because truth is unpleasant/unacceptable.

  • Terri Cook
    2019-02-11 00:38

    This is an easy to read and interesting book. Little concerning how powerful a Nacissist can be.

  • Gina's Library
    2019-01-24 03:01

    Narcissism is a difficult thing to diagnose. I’m sure some people that come across off as rude, and conceited are probably undiagnosed narcissistic.I wanted to read this book because there is someone in my life I suspect is narcissistic although they have not been diagnosed as having it. This book is full of information on the history of narcissism, why someone may have it, and how to deal with a person that does have it.Think of it as your study guide. I found there are some tips I can use towards my family member. I now understand why they are this way was well. This doesn’t excuse the behavior, just gives you the victim or person dealing with them an inside look why.I’m personally going to start implementing some of the tips on dealing with a narcissistic person in my relationship with them.I received this book in exchange for a fair and honest review. My opinions are 100% my own.

  • Crystal Robertson
    2019-01-31 01:50

    I am always looking to expand my perspective and have a big interest in psychology so I figured I would give this book a read. Unmasking Narcissism is a great book for a different and compassionate outlook on the subject. From the foreward this one kept me interrested with Greek myths of Narcissus and Echo as well as a background of diagnosis of NPD. I really appreciated the point of view that they approach with where the stigma is dropped. This is a great choice for those that want to understand and effectively communicate rather than walk away. Breaking down the symptoms and traits, you gain insight into the workings of narcissistic tendancies. Through examples and tips you can empathize and improve relations with those narcissists in your life. Heck for that matter ive thought of applying some of these practices with my three year old. I received this in exchange for an honest review.

  • Iris
    2019-02-15 00:49

    Narcissistic Personality Disorder is one of the top most difficult personality disorders to diagnose as well as to treat. The author provides an insight to simplify and understand goals and management in a past or present relationship as well as healing techniques. It can be mind-boggling to live or work with someone who is self-centered and narcissistic. I was pleased to see how well the author explains the importance and understanding that there is good narcissism as well as bad narcissism. This book provides helpful information on understanding the narcissist and is well worth the read. I received the Kindle version of this book for free in exchange for my honest review.

  • Lauren
    2019-01-27 06:44

    This book starts with a story of Narcissus and Echo, setting up the history of narcissism, then goes into modern tales about people struggling with the difference aspects of narcissistic behavior and how to deal with them. I found the stories to be interesting and relatable, and all of them helped me to better understand both the qualities of narcissism and gave tips on how to deal with them. Whether or not you have a narcissist in your life, this book is a great way to learn about narcissistic qualities, which can help in a myriad of relationships.

  • Christa
    2019-02-08 04:43

    I was hoping to use this book as research for character development in a story I'm working on and found it to be more of a self-help book for people dealing with narcissistic parents, significant others, and co-workers, but Mark Ettensohn, Psy.D., still provided solid information re: narcissism upon which to lay my foundation. A comprehensive book (also wish there had been a little more on the concept of 'malignant narcissism'), and worth the read.

  • Terry
    2019-01-20 23:49

    Good addition to your reference shelf if you're taking about Abnormal Psychology class. It's written more like a pop psy article for the general public than something more scholarly but still useful - as long as laymen don't use it for diagnosing themselves or friends and family. Reading it will NOT confer the reader the ability to attach any labels on others if said laymen have any sense of their own lack of in-depth knowledge.

  • Craig Bergland
    2019-02-05 00:07

    Simply outstanding! I learned a lot, and other things I already knew were confirmed. Perhaps most importantly, I came to see that even my less than optimal responses to the narcissists in my life were not atypical. What's more, I now understand Donald Trump a little better! Great book!

  • Nick Yee
    2019-02-02 00:43

    Guidance for navigating through degrees of narcissism.

  • Lynne Lapin
    2019-02-09 04:50

    InterestingBought as a Discounted Ebook. It is interesting to see how narcissistic person gains control. I kept thinking of Trump and Clinton.

  • M
    2019-02-04 00:01

    Quick, easy, not terribly technical read, heavy on ultimately helpful metaphor.

  • Kristi Allen
    2019-02-02 23:49

    InsightfulI would recommend this book for anyone dealing with a narcissist in their lives. The examples are easy to understand and apply to real situations.